Psychology In Seattle Podcast

[Rerun] Dr. Kirk reads follow-up emails to the procrastination deep dive. (Intro) August 13, 2021

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An Update: In the April 2, 2025 episode, "Stop Having Sex With Clients," Dr. Kirk Honda responded to a listener who was having an affair with her therapist. Now she returns with an update. As she begins to question years of manipulation, secrecy, and professional misconduct, Dr. Kirk discusses therapist abuse, grooming, trauma bonding, ethics, and the difficult process of waking up to exploitation by someone you still love. August 10, 2026

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00:00 Summarizing the initial situation
36:31 How has the situation progressed? 
1:05:28 How can they protect themselves from retaliation?

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Dr. Kirk Honda reacts to the video NPD Therapy in Action from the BorderlinerNotes YouTube channel, featuring Dr. Karen Jacob and Tessa. Along the way, he is surprised to find a therapist whose style, case conceptualization, and interventions closely resemble his own approach to psychotherapy. The full consultation video can be found here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XlXMc_WU_S0&t=829s August 7, 2026

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00:00 Intro00:13 The narcissistic lens in therapy
07:04 The core of vulnerability
43:01 Narcissistic defenses 

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[Rerun] Dr. Kirk Honda talks about his most pivotal moments of childhood.
July 18, 2018

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Dr. Kirk Honda reacts to the video NPD Therapy in Action from the BorderlinerNotes YouTube channel, featuring Dr. Karen Jacob and Tessa. Along the way, he is surprised to find a therapist whose style, case conceptualization, and interventions closely resemble his own approach to psychotherapy. The full consultation video can be found here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XlXMc_WU_S0&t=829s
August 5, 2026

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00:00 Introduction00:41 The lens of narcissism
29:00 Spectrum of narcissism & lack of self
43:45 Attunement & a rupture

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Trigger Warning: This episode may include topics such as assault, trauma, and discrimination. If necessary, listeners are encouraged to refrain from listening and care for their safety and well-being. Disclaimer: The content provided is for educational, informational, and entertainment purposes only. Nothing here constitutes personal or professional consultation, therapy, diagnosis, or creates a counselor-client relationship. Topics discussed may generate differing points of view. If you participate (by being a guest, submitting a question, or commenting) you must do so with the knowledge that we cannot control reactions or responses from others, which may not agree with you or feel unfair. Your participation on this site is at your own risk, accepting full responsibility for any liability or harm that may result. Anything you write here may be used for discussion or endorsement of the podcast. Opinions and views expressed by the host and guest hosts are personal views. Although we take precautions and fact check, they should not be considered facts and the opinions may change. Opinions posted by participants (such as comments) are not those of the hosts. Readers should not rely on any information found here and should perform due diligence before taking any action. For a more extensive description of factors for you to consider, please see www.psychologyinseattle.com