A Really Good Cry

Have you done all the work and still feel empty?
Are you stuck in endless self-improvement with nothing to show for it?
What if you’ve been asking the wrong question all along?​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​

In this episode of A Really Good Cry, Radhi breaks down the crucial difference between self-development and self-mastery, and why chasing growth without inner depth can leave you feeling perpetually broken. Drawing on ancient wisdom from the Bhagavad Gita, this episode shifts the conversation from “how do I improve myself?” to “who is the self I’m actually trying to improve?”

Rather than giving you another checklist, Radhi explores how true fulfillment comes from transforming your relationship with yourself, not just your behavior. From ego awareness to emotional regulation to desire management, this episode gives you the inner framework to stop being controlled by your reactions, impulses, and need for validation.

In this episode, you’ll learn:
Why self-development alone can trap you in a cycle of feeling perpetually unfulfilled.
What self-mastery actually means and how it differs from discipline or willpower.
How to observe your emotions without being run by them.
Why detachment doesn’t mean not caring, and how to release outcomes without giving up.
Four daily practices to start moving from self-development into self-mastery.
Growth isn’t just about what you build. It’s about who’s doing the building.

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When the world tells you who you should be, how do you come home to your authentic self?
Can you be both stressed and blessed at the same time, or must you choose one?
How do we find room for joy and celebration while facing collective suffering and oppression?

In this episode of A Really Good Cry, Radhi sits down with Dr. Thema Bryant, a trauma recovery expert and 2023 President of the American Psychological Association (APA), for a deeply reflective conversation on identity, faith, and the process of "Homecoming."

Dr. Bryant shares her personal journey growing up with ministers who practiced liberation theology, which is about the community and the collective, not just the individual and God. This led her to discover liberation psychology, focusing on context and systems to empower everyone.

She also discusses how her childhood home was like her "first time working at like a crisis hotline" and how moving to Liberia, West Africa, gave her confidence from seeing people who looked like her in positions of authority. Together, they explore how stress, trauma, and oppression disconnect us from ourselves, the meaning of her podcast and book Homecoming, and how to cultivate joy while working for justice.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

Why "Homecoming" is about liberation and coming back to yourself, even for the first time
How healthy relationships and spaces are required for you to be able to come back to yourself
The difference between coping with trauma and healing from it
Why avoidance in therapy prevents healing and the value of trauma-focused and somatic therapy.
How liberation psychology recognizes that systems (like media and educational systems) affect us, beyond just personal issues.
The connection between the desire for control (or "busy-ness") and past trauma or anxiety.
The importance of self-care practices like quiet time to stay grounded and not be easily moved by others' opinions.
That true worthiness and sacredness are not tied to performance.
The difference between "God-fearing" and believing in a loving God

This episode is a powerful reminder that while stress and oppression may disconnect us, liberation is possible. Healing isn't about becoming someone new; it's about remembering, accepting, and appreciating who you were before the world told you who to be. You hold the special sauce within you.


Dr. Thema Bryant's Matters of the Heart is a guide to healing your relationship with yourself and the people you love. Grab a copy here - https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/760456/matters-of-the-heart-by-thema-bryant-phd/


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Get Dr. Thema’s book here: Homecoming: Overcome Fear and Trauma to Reclaim Your Whole, Authentic Self

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Have you ever felt off—but couldn’t quite explain why?
Are you craving balance, clarity, or deeper connection with your body?
Or maybe… you're tired of chasing wellness fads and just want to feel at home in yourself again?

In this episode of A Really Good Cry, Radhi shares the gentle, powerful wisdom of Ayurveda—an ancient approach to healing that helps us reconnect to the natural rhythms of our body, mind, and spirit.

Rooted in presence and compassion, Ayurveda teaches us to slow down and truly listen. You’ll learn how the five elements and three doshas shape your physical and emotional patterns, and how everyday choices—from the meals you cook to the energy you carry—can guide you back to balance.

Radhi opens up about the rituals that ground her, the foods that nourish her, and how this practice has helped her understand herself more deeply—beyond just symptoms or routines.

In this episode, you’ll learn:
How to reconnect with your body’s subtle signals
What the doshas are—and how they impact your mood, energy, and digestion
The Ayurvedic approach to food, cooking, and self-care
Why healing doesn’t mean perfection, but presence
Simple practices to help you feel more grounded, calm, and aligned
How honoring your unique constitution can support long-term health

Whether you're brand new to Ayurveda or looking to deepen your practice, this episode is an invitation to tune in, slow down, and return to what your body’s been trying to tell you all along.

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Why do we want what we want?
Is desire a sign of lack or alignment?
What if the only thing blocking your abundance is your capacity to hold it?
Can loss actually prepare you for more?


In this episode of A Really Good Cry, Radhi sits down with entrepreneur and spiritual teacher David Ghiyam to unpack manifestation, wealth, relationships, and the spiritual laws that shape our reality.

David shares how taking a vow of poverty at 19 shaped his understanding of money, and how subconscious beliefs kept him financially stuck for 15 years. He explains the concept of expanding your “vessel”: if you try to hold a million-dollar life with limited capacity, it will collapse. The work isn’t about chasing success, it’s about becoming someone who can sustain it.

They discuss immigrant scarcity mindset, generational trauma around money, and why enjoying wealth is just as important as earning it. The conversation also dives into magnetic energy in relationships, transforming darkness into certainty, and why true prayer is asking to become the person who can hold them.

In this episode, you’ll learn:
Why desire signals potential, not lack
How limiting beliefs cap your income and relationships
What it means to expand your capacity for abundance
How to break generational fear around money
Why validation repels and wholeness attracts
How to turn setbacks into spiritual growth

This episode is about doing the inner work so success doesn’t break you, it builds you.


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Do your standards shrink the room?
Have you ever been called too much, too intense, too selective, too particular?
What if that's not a flaw, but proof of the work you've done on yourself?

In this episode of A Really Good Cry, Radhi gets real about what it means to hold high standards — in dating, friendship, work, and with yourself. She breaks down the difference between ego-driven expectations and value-driven ones, and why knowing the difference changes everything.

In this episode, you'll learn:
- Why being "low maintenance" isn't the flex we think it is.
- The difference between ego standards and value standards.
- Three tests to check if your standards are rooted in values or image.
- Why "you're too much" is about their capacity, not your worth.
- How Oprah, Serena Williams, and Indra Nooyi refused to shrink and won.

Your standards aren't the problem. Compromising them is.


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