The Tamsen Show

• How to Set Boundaries Without Feeling Guilty

  Are you the one who always says yes? Who fixes, accommodates, anticipates, and quietly resents it later? In this week’s episode, Tamsen sits down with psychotherapist and bestselling author Terri Cole to talk about the hidden habits of high -functioning codependents, especially in midlife, during perimenopause, or after a major life shift. Terri Cole is going to: Explain what high-functioning codependency actually looks like and why most women don’t recognize it Break down how menopause can be a wake-up call for self-abandonment Share why so many women feel emotionally drained in midlife and what to do about it Unpack the patterns we learn in childhood that shape how we caretake and over-function Offer scripts and boundary tools to help you say no, protect your energy, and finally consider yourself This is a must-listen for anyone who feels like they’re doing it all, but losing themselves in theprocess. Watch the Full Episode Here: https://www.youtube.com/@TamsenFadalTV Get my new book, How To Menopause, Take Charge of Your Health, Reclaim Your Life and Feel Even Better Than Before: http://www.howtomenopause.com 💖 Follow The Tamsen Show: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thetamsenshow/ Follow Tamsen Fadal: https://www.instagram.com/tamsenfadal FREE Resources: https://www.tamsenfadal.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tamsenfadal Tik Tok: https://www.tiktok.com/@tamsenfadal You can find more about Terri here: https://www.terricole.com Medical Disclaimer: The information provided in this podcast is for educational and informational purposes only and is not intended as medical advice. Always consult with a qualified healthcare professional regarding any medical concerns or treatment options. The views expressed by guests are their own and do not necessarily reflect those of The Tamsen Show. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

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• Healing the Grief, the Love, and the Silence Around Your Mother

  If you’ve ever wondered why certain relationships feel so hard or why you’ve spent a lifetime craving a kind of love you can’t quite name, this special Mother’s Day edition will give you language for what you’ve lived. Tamsen sits down with licensed professional counselor and bestselling author Kelly McDaniel to talk about Mother Hunger, a term she coined to describe the deep, often hidden longing many women carry from not getting the love, protection, or guidance they needed as daughters. They talk about: - Why so many women struggle with emotional eating, self-worth, and romantic patterns—and how it ties back to early attachment - What “mother hunger” really means, and why most women don’t recognize it until midlife - How your earliest experiences shape your relationships, your body image, and your ability to trust - The emotional cost of caring for a mother who couldn’t care for you - What it means to crave love that feels safe, steady, and nourishing - How to begin healing, even if your mother is gone, unavailable, or unwilling - Why midlife is often the moment women finally face the grief they’ve been carrying for decades - How unresolved mother hunger can show up in love, sex, food, and friendships and what to do about it - Whether forgiveness is necessary in order to move on and what to do if an apology never comes This episode is for every woman who has ever said “I’m fine” when she wasn’t and is finally ready to tell herself the truth. Watch the Full Episode Here: https://www.youtube.com/@TamsenFadalTV Get my new book, How To Menopause, Take Charge of Your Health, Reclaim Your Life and Feel Even Better Than Before 💖 http://www.howtomenopause.com  Follow The Tamsen Show:  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thetamsenshow/ Follow Tamsen Fadal: Website: https://www.tamsenfadal.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tamsenfadal Tik Tok: https://www.tiktok.com/@tamsenfadal You can find Kelly Here: https://kellymcdanieltherapy.com/ Medical Disclaimer: The information provided in this podcast is for educational and informational purposes only and is not intended as medical advice. Always consult with a qualified healthcare professional regarding any medical concerns or treatment options. The views expressed by guests are their own and do not necessarily reflect those of The Tamsen Show. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

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• The Narcissist Decoder: How Smart Women Get Trapped in Emotional Abuse

  If you've ever questioned your reality, blamed your hormones, or been told you’re “too sensitive,” this conversation will change how you see everything. Tamsen sits down with world-renowned psychologist and narcissism expert Dr. Ramani Durvasula, author of the New York Times bestseller It’s Not You: Identifying and Healing from Narcissistic People, to decode the emotional warfare so many women face in toxic relationships, especially in midlife. They talk about: How narcissists twist your words and make you question your memory-The subtle ways they use your hormones and emotions against you-Why smart, self-aware women stay in toxic relationships longer than they should-The early red flags that feel easy to dismiss but matter most-What love bombing actually looks like (and why it works so well)-Why midlife often becomes the breaking point for women in these dynamics-How to rebuild your confidence and sense of reality after emotional abuse This episode is a wake-up call and a roadmap to help you stop second-guessing yourself and start trusting what you know. Watch the Full Episode Here: https://www.youtube.com/@TamsenFadalTV Get my new book, How To Menopause, Take Charge of Your Health, Reclaim Your Life and Feel Even Better Than Before 💖 http://www.howtomenopause.com  Follow The Tamsen Show:  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thetamsenshow/ Follow Tamsen Fadal: FREE resourcesWebsite: https://www.tamsenfadal.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tamsenfadal Tik Tok: https://www.tiktok.com/@tamsenfadal You can find Dr Ramani here:  https://doctor-ramani.com/ Medical Disclaimer: The information provided in this podcast is for educational and informational purposes only and is not intended as medical advice. Always consult with a qualified healthcare professional regarding any medical concerns or treatment options. The views expressed by guests are their own and do not necessarily reflect those of The Tamsen Show. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

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• The #1 Relationship Expert Jillian Turecki on Finding Real Love After 40

  If you think it’s too late for love, think again. In this powerful conversation, Tamsen sits down with leading Relationship Expert Jillian Turecki to find out what she’s learned after coaching thousands of couples, hosting over 150 episodes of her hit podcast Jillian on Love, and writing her game-changing New York Times bestselling book It Begins With You: The 9 Hard Truths About Love That Will Change Your Life. We get into: Why real love starts with you (not someone else) The #1 dating mistake people are still making in 2025 How to tell if it’s real love or just temporary lust Why chasing someone never leads to true connection How to rebuild your confidence after heartbreak, divorce, or midlife changes Why feeling "not good enough" keeps you stuck (and how to break that cycle) How to date smarter without feeling burned out or discouraged-Why settling feels safer, but costs you everything How to fill your own cup first so you attract healthy love This episode is your roadmap to stop settling, break old patterns, and finally find the connection you deserve. Real love is possible, but it begins with you. Watch the Full Episode Here: https://www.youtube.com/@TamsenFadalTV Get my new book, How To Menopause, Take Charge of Your Health, Reclaim Your Life and Feel Even Better Than Before 💖 http://www.howtomenopause.com  Follow The Tamsen Show:  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thetamsenshow/ Follow Tamsen Fadal: https://www.tamsenfadal.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tamsenfadal Tik Tok: https://www.tiktok.com/@tamsenfadal You can find Jillian here: Website: https://www.jillianturecki.com/ Medical Disclaimer: The information provided in this podcast is for educational and informational purposes only and is not intended as medical advice. Always consult with a qualified healthcare professional regarding any medical concerns or treatment options. The views expressed by guests are their own and do not necessarily reflect those of The Tamsen Show. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

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• The Science of Rebooting Your Life: Dopamine, Dating & Doing Things Differently

  Routine might feel safe, but for your brain, it can become a prison. This week, Dr. Yalda Safai joins Tamsen to talk about the science of novelty and why trying something new is the most powerful way to spark dopamine, reboot your mindset, and shift out of midlife stagnation.  Tamsen and Dr Safai share dating experience and the benefits of meeting a partner later in life. Plus why women are staying single longer and why we should avoid subpar relationships at all costs!  We dive deep into what high-functioning depression really looks like in successful women. From the quiet symptoms of anhedonia and mood disorders to undiagnosed thyroid issues and the hormonal shifts of perimenopause. Dr. Safai breaks down the medical, emotional, and social blind spots that keep so many of us suffering in silence. What you’ll learn;  Why novel experiences are a natural antidepressant The mental health cost of playing it safe and sticking to routine Chronic unhappiness and the silent pain of high-functioning women Anhedonia: the medical term for when nothing feels good anymore How thyroid issues and perimenopause are often misdiagnosed as mood swings Why your second act isn’t about accumulation, it’s about experience The pressure to partner up and how it leads to compromising your worth Why you should never date to fill a void What ghosting really says about emotional maturity How to build self-worth before dating again Watch the Full Episode Here: https://www.youtube.com/@TamsenFadalTV Get my new book, How To Menopause, Take Charge of Your Health, Reclaim Your Life and Feel Even Better Than Before 💖 http://www.howtomenopause.com  Follow The Tamsen Show:  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thetamsenshow/ Follow Tamsen Fadal: Website: https://www.tamsenfadal.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tamsenfadal Tik Tok: https://www.tiktok.com/@tamsenfadal You can find Dr Safai here:  Website: yaldasafaimd.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/yaldasafaimd Medical Disclaimer: The information provided in this podcast is for educational and informational purposes only and is not intended as medical advice. Always consult with a qualified healthcare professional regarding any medical concerns or treatment options. The views expressed by guests are their own and do not necessarily reflect those of The Tamsen Show. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

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