The Imperfects

Two cataclysmic events have shaped Dr Lucy Hone’s relationship with grief, and resilience.
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Today in the Academy of Imperfection, we welcome Dr Lucy Hone. Dr Lucy’s work focuses on making sense of the senseless, and helping others to do the same.
As a legitimate expert in grief, resilience and wellbeing, Dr Lucy is able to blend the science with her own lived experience.
This episode explores living losses (divorce, estrangement, infertility), grief comparison, as well as the research around post-traumatic growth. Guided by questions from Dr Lucy’s latest book, How will I ever get through this?, Hugh, Josh and Ryan ask Dr Lucy why grief feels so lonely, how you are supposed to accept loss, and will you ever be happy again, amongst others.
This is a special one.
0:00 – An Unsuspecting Saturday Morning
12:11 – Grief comparison
21:25 – How am I supposed to accept this?
31:14 – How do you keep hope alive?
35:48 – Why do I feel so lonely?
50:20 – Will I ever be happy again?
56:36 – Letting the other children live
1:03:44 – Do you know your strengths?
1:09:12 – Who and what do you want to live for?
1:14:59 – Who and what is good in your world?
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🫖 Other Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode
Dr Emily - Grief Lightening - https://bit.ly/3ZPVNmO
Dr Emily - Other People Matter - https://bit.ly/3Oku8b4
Dr Emily - Goals For Your Goals - https://bit.ly/4rAK3AF
📖 Things to read
How Will I Ever Get Through This by Dr Lucy Hone - https://bit.ly/4bAWO9w
Resilient Grieving by Dr Lucy Hone - https://bit.ly/4kpkf8g
Oscillation Grief Theory - https://bit.ly/4qZ5WK1
Michael F. Steger - Meaning and Purpose Work - https://michaelfsteger.com
J. William Worden - Four Tasks of Mourning - https://bit.ly/3NTGPcU
💻Things to check out
Dr Lucy’s website - https://www.drlucyhone.com
3 Secrets of Resilient People TedTalk - https://bit.ly/3Zguj9S
Dr Lucy’s ‘Look Forward To’ Calendar
VIA Strengths test - http://bit.ly/4h2KYFJ
Coping With Loss community on Facebook - https://bit.ly/3NTnDvT
Welcome to Holland poem - https://bit.ly/4kgB0lH
Will Arnett + Conan O’Brien on Grief - https://bit.ly/4a06320
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Stop. Everything. Now. It’s Claudia Karvan day.
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An icon of the screen, and of the heart, Claudia is Australian entertainment royalty.
Claudia’s life itself feels like a movie (no one else grew up in a nightclub, did they?) and it was an absolute privilege to listen to all the lessons that she has learnt along the way.
With incredible grace, Claudia talks to Hugh, Ryan and Josh about playing the long game during divorce, and how she came to the realisation that it wasn’t up to her to fix everything.
Claudia speaks openly about separating the person from the diagnosis, and how, and why, she thinks so often about death.
This is one for the highlight reel.
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0:00 – Hugh ‘questionable-decisions’ van Cuylenburg
12:24 – The role of a lifetime
17:55 – An unconventional childhood
28:50 – It’s not up to you to fix everything
39:55 – The opening of another world
45:47 – Doing it all (with support)
51:12 – Love and family HER way
59:33 – Play the long game
1:07:15 – Managing mental ill-health
1:24:39 – The benefit of helping others
1:26:48 – How to love in a healthy way
🥸 Which Imperfects Host Are You Quiz? - https://tally.so/r/Xx4PEO
🫖Other Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode
Stephen Curry - I Dug a Hole … and Found Myself - https://bit.ly/3ZpPNkN
Hannah Ferguson - Outspoken But Not Broken - https://bit.ly/3M8SC6y
📺 Things to watch
Love My Way - https://bit.ly/4qFCjNA
The Secret Life of Us - https://bit.ly/3Z1Thtt
The Queen of Versailles - https://bit.ly/3Z5FemE
Australian Story - The Secret Life of Claudia Karvan - https://bit.ly/3ZE8p0g
Who Do You Think You Are? with Claudia Karvan - https://bit.ly/4bIw3QL
Bump - https://bit.ly/49O16Jv
📖 Things to read
The Tibetan Book of Living and Dying by Sogyal Rinpoche - https://bit.ly/4k8qdtR
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Ryan’s got news.
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Well, past-Ryan had news, and now future-Ryan is going to reflect on how present-day-Ryan is currently feeling about said news. Get it? It’s reflecting on a reflection about a rejection.
Today we’re giving you two for the price of none, and bringing you two of the most memorable moments from our subscriber based show A Little More Imperfects.
With both segments focusing on wildest dreams, Hugh, Ryan and Josh explore how to navigate regret when you’re not at your best, and how to show yourself compassion and love when your dreams are, well, crushed.
Also, we ask Hugh what happened to him today.
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🫖Other Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode
James van Cuylenburg - Love Your Wonky Bricks - https://bit.ly/457hYZA
Ryan Shelton - Shame, Jealousy & Purpose - https://bit.ly/454PJL6
Isaac Humphries - Coming Out on Court - https://bit.ly/4jQtxtD

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Do you believe in ghosts? Josh doesn’t, Ryan does, and Hugh is actually being haunted.
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It’s the second episode of our super sexy summer series (the alliteration is wild in this episode), and we’re revisiting the time that Hugh got haunted.
Blending together a few episodes of A Little More Imperfects, our subscriber platform that you can sign up for below, we’ll introduce you to Geraint the shamanic healer, what happened during Hugh’s ghost busting appointment, and whether Hugh has had any paranormal activity since.
And finally, whether this whole ordeal has convinced Josh that ghosts are real.
Long live summer!
0:00 – A phoenus? Draw it
4:17 – Team Josh v Team Ryan
10:28 – Meeting the shamanic healer
16:25 – The not-so-light-hearted update
30:01 – Cursed artwork: to burn or not to burn
35:46 – Has the ghost been busted?
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🫖Other Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode
Maria Ruberto - Advancing Despite Adversity - https://bit.ly/49TSktd
Maria Ruberto - Sleep Your Way To Your Top - https://bit.ly/49jJJ2S
👻Ghost busters
Garant
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Today, we come to you with a gift: bonus Dr Emily. Thank you in advance for the standing ovation.
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Welcoming you into the world of A Little More Imperfects, our subscriber-based platform available on Patreon and Apple Podcasts, our resident psychologist Dr Emily reaches into the reflection pond, to discuss and decode a reflection from one of our community members.
Responding to this reflection, Dr Emily chats to Ryan, Josh, and special guest Producer Bridge, about how life changing it can be to receive an ADHD diagnosis, as well as the not so joyful emotions, such as grief and anger, which can accompany this.
Josh talks about his own inner critic, which leads into a broader discussion about self-compassion, top down vs bottom up therapy, and the therapeutic benefits to showing up for your younger self as the adult you are today.
Don’t say we don’t spoil you.
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🩵Where to send in your reflections
https://bit.ly/4rYjfuS
🫖Other Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode
Janelle Booker - Living with ADHD - https://bit.ly/4rXQIG0
Hugh’s ADHD … brief - https://bit.ly/3MJBzb4
Ben Crowe (Pt 1) - Meet Your Inner Fan - https://bit.ly/3KHwJdX
Ben Crowe (Pt 2) - Now BE Your Inner Fan - https://bit.ly/49bVxnB
James van Cuylenburg - Love Your Wonky Bricks - https://bit.ly/3MzZKZz
What’s Your ATAR? - https://bit.ly/4pwNZBG
📺Things to watch
The Rehearsal - https://bit.ly/48V6IA0
Good Will Hunting - https://bit.ly/4iW7hhn
Rick Hanson - Velcro for the Bad, Teflon for the Good - https://bit.ly/4rVpe3R
💻 Things to do
Rick Hanson - Positive Neuroplasticity Training - https://bit.ly/48COcgN
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The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

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