DEEP&DIRTY with Lisa Opel

DEEP&DIRTY (DE): KRISTINA MARLEN - Wir reden zu viel über Sex und berühren uns zu wenig.
YouTube Video hier: https://youtu.be/0g5WQeT9Ty8
ALLE LINKS ZU KRISTINA:
Website: www.marlen.me // www.marlensworld.com // Instagram: @Kristina.marlen
ÜBER DIESE FOLGE:
Was, wenn du gar keinen besseren Sex brauchst, sondern erstmal deinen Körper zurück?
In dieser Folge spreche ich mit Kristina Marlen über Berührung als sexuelle Bildung, Sexarbeit als Körperwissen und darüber, warum so viele Menschen zwar einen Körper haben, aber kaum noch darin wohnen.
Wir reden über Scham, Tabus, Zensur, Bondage, Körperarbeit, Verspieltheit und diese kleinen Wächter im Kopf, die sofort aufspringen, sobald es spannend wird:Darf ich das? Ist das komisch? Bin ich zu viel? Was, wenn ich mich wirklich spüre?
Kristina erzählt, warum Berührung manchmal mehr verändert als tausend Gespräche, weshalb Sexarbeit auch Care-Arbeit sein kann und wie ihre Ausbildung Sexcoaching mit dem Wissen und den Fähigkeiten von Sexworker*innen verbindet.
Eine Folge über Lust, Nähe, Mut, Körper, Kopf und die ziemlich wichtige Frage, ob wir unsere inneren Wächter nicht einfach mal mit einem Aperol an die Spree setzen sollten.
Prefer the transcript? Find it here.
I'm your host, Lisa Opel and I'm here to take you on a liberating ride through the world of sex shops, clubs, toys, play and more!
Feel free to send me your questions and wishes anytime on Instagram or under [email protected]
More of me on Instagram (@pleasepinchmehard) and my webpage (www.pleasepinchmehard.com)
My book SEX SEX SEX - Your Workbook for Singles & Couples
My book GIVE IT TO ME! on Amazon (E-Book & Print) and Spotify as an Audiobook
Need a one-on-one session with a Confidante? I've got you: www.mrs-opel.com


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DEEP&DIRTY (DE): Sinan Huemer und Lisa über DIRTY TALK BASICS.
In dieser Folge sprechen wir Dirty Talk ohne Cringe: So findet ihr Worte, die wirklich zu euch passen.
Der Link zu den Synonymen ist hier: www.pleasepinchmehard.com/andere-worter-fur-muschi-pimmel-und-co-auf-deutsch
YouTube Video hier: https://youtu.be/H7Bv-b67bwY
ALLE LINKS ZU SINAN:
Website: https://www.vikingtantra.com // Podcast: https://www.vikingtantra.com/viking-tantra-podcast // Instagram: @vikingtantra
ÜBER DIESE FOLGE:
Dirty Talk muss nicht laut, hart oder komplett drüber sein. In dieser Folge sprechen Lisa Opel und Sinan Huemer darüber, wie erotische Sprache im Alltag anfangen kann, warum kopierte Porno-Sätze oft schiefgehen und wieso der beste Einstieg meistens viel simpler ist: sagen, was du fühlst, was du siehst oder was du dir gerade wünschst. Dazu gibt es ehrliche Tipps, Baby Steps, jede Menge Kontext und natürlich eine herrlich absurde Sammlung an Synonymen für Muschi, Pimmel und Co.
Prefer the transcript? Find it here.
I'm your host, Lisa Opel and I'm here to take you on a liberating ride through the world of sex shops, clubs, toys, play and more!
Feel free to send me your questions and wishes anytime on Instagram or under [email protected]
More of me on Instagram (@pleasepinchmehard) and my webpage (www.pleasepinchmehard.com)
My book SEX SEX SEX - Your Workbook for Singles & Couples
My book GIVE IT TO ME! on Amazon (E-Book & Print) and Spotify as an Audiobook
Need a one-on-one session with a Confidante? I've got you: www.mrs-opel.com


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(ENG): LILIANA LADIOS VELASQUEZ: Horny, Angry & Finally Free: Aging, desire, and the politics of being in a female body.
I’m joined by the incredible Liliana aka La Dios: performance artist, comedian, dominatrix, and abortion support doula and we get into everything from sex work and shame to perimenopause, rage, and the very real meaning of my body, my choice.
We talk about what BDSM can actually teach you about boundaries (spoiler: a lot), why so many women feel disconnected from their desire right now, and how aging can bring a level of clarity that makes you… significantly less tolerant of nonsense.
We also get personal. From her journey through sex work and comedy to the activism that now keeps her up at night, especially around abortion rights and creating spaces where people can make decisions about their bodies without shame or pressure.
It’s raw, it’s funny, it’s honest and at times, it might hit a nerve (in the best way).
Also: a three-legged cat named Tina Turner makes an appearance. You’re welcome.
Watch the episode on YouTube: https://youtu.be/4X84Zygj-4c
About Liliana
Liliana Velasquez M., aka La Dios, is a performance artist, comedian, dominatrix, and abortion support doula based in Berlin. Moving between sex work, stage, and activism, she uses her voice (and her presence) to challenge shame, question systems, and stand firmly for body autonomy and consent. Her work is raw, political, and deeply human — always rooted in one thing: freedom of choice.
Find Liliana here:
www.ladios.me
www.timetoshinekink.com  
IG: @Ladios_v
I'm your host, Lisa Opel and I'm here to take you on a liberating ride through the world of sex shops, clubs, toys, play and more!
Feel free to send me your questions and wishes anytime on Instagram or under [email protected]
More of me on Instagram (@pleasepinchmehard) and my webpage (www.pleasepinchmehard.com)
My book SEX SEX SEX - Your Workbook for Singles & Couples
My book GIVE IT TO ME! on Amazon (E-Book & Print) and Spotify as an Audiobook
My book SAVED IN NOTES... on Amazon (E-Book, Softback & Hardback)
Need a one-on-one session with a Confidante? I've got you: www.mrs-opel.com


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(ENG): COURTNEY BOYER: I asked my husband for an open marriage after 17 years.
Courtney Boyer joins me for a deeply honest, sometimes uncomfortable conversation about desire, shame, and what happens when you stop living your life for approval.
We talk about growing up in purity culture, marrying young, and building a life that looked “right” from the outside but didn’t fully feel like hers. After 17 years of marriage, she asked for something that would change everything and we get into what actually happens after a moment like that. Not the fantasy, but the conversations, the fear, the tension, and the growth that follows.
We also explore navigating non-monogamy in a monogamous partnership, the emotional reality behind opening a relationship, and why so many women feel disconnected from their own needs in the first place.
This isn’t a guide or a blueprint. It’s a real conversation about self-abandonment, reclaiming pleasure, and learning to choose yourself even when it’s messy, complicated, and doesn’t fit into neat labels.
About Courtney
Courtney Boyer, M.Ed., M.S., is a therapist-turned-relationship coach, writer, and speaker whose work centers on love, desire, and authenticity. She is the author of Not Tonight Honey and Opened, and has been featured in Glamour, Cosmopolitan, The Huffington Post, and BBC Radio Live.
Drawing on her background in mental health and sex therapy, she blends professional expertise with lived experience to help women break free from shame, reclaim their voice, and create relationships rooted in honesty and autonomy.
She lives in Germany with her husband and three children.
Find Courtney here:
Instagram: @courtneyboyercoaching - https://www.instagram.com/courtneyboyercoaching/ | Couple IG: @themonopolycouple - https://www.instagram.com/themonopolycouple/ | Website: https://www.courtneyboyercoaching.com
Watch the episode on YouTube:
Prefer the transcript? Find it here: https://youtu.be/vx53NNR-s-E.
I'm your host, Lisa Opel and I'm here to take you on a liberating ride through the world of sex shops, clubs, toys, play and more!
Feel free to send me your questions and wishes anytime on Instagram or under [email protected]
More of me on Instagram (@pleasepinchmehard) and my webpage (www.pleasepinchmehard.com)
My book SEX SEX SEX - Your Workbook for Singles & Couples
My book GIVE IT TO ME! on Amazon (E-Book & Print) and Spotify as an Audiobook
My book SAVED IN NOTES... on Amazon (E-Book, Softback & Hardback)
Need a one-on-one session with a Confidante? I've got you: www.mrs-opel.com


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(ENG): Why don’t I initiate sex (and what does it mean)? (A collab with Evie Plumb from Cliterally The Best)
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You love your partner. You enjoy sex. Yet somehow you’re almost never the one initiating it.
If that sounds familiar, you’re not alone.
📖 Read the full article here: https://cliterallythebest.com/why-dont-i-initiate-sex-and-what-does-it-mean
In this episode, we unpack why initiating sex can feel surprisingly difficult; even in happy, loving relationships. From fear of rejection and shame, to responsive desire, stress, and relationship dynamics, this conversation explores what’s really going on beneath the surface.
This episode will help you understand:
- why initiation isn’t just about desire
- how different types of desire affect who makes the first move
- the role of stress, mental load, and emotional dynamics
- how to shift the pattern without pressure or blame
Most importantly, it will remind you of one thing:you are not broken.

Prefer the transcript? Find it here.
I'm your host, Lisa Opel and I'm here to take you on a liberating ride through the world of sex shops, clubs, toys, play and more!
Feel free to send me your questions and wishes anytime on Instagram or under [email protected]
More of me on Instagram (@pleasepinchmehard) and my webpage (www.pleasepinchmehard.com)
My book SEX SEX SEX - Your Workbook for Singles & Couples
My book GIVE IT TO ME! on Amazon (E-Book & Print) and Spotify as an Audiobook
My book SAVED IN NOTES... on Amazon (E-Book, Softback & Hardback)
Need a one-on-one session with a Confidante? I've got you: www.mrs-opel.com


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