DEEP&DIRTY with Lisa Opel

(ENG): LADY VYRA: Inside the mind of a dominatrix.
Watch this on YouTube: https://youtu.be/R-kAHJTt3jA
In this episode, Lisa talks to Berlin-based dominatrix Lady Vyra about sensual dominance, BDSM as bodywork, and why kink can be so much more playful, tender and funny than the clichés suggest. There is movement, theatre, leather, breath, shame, power, and yes: an alien-looking vibrator that left one poor man beautifully confused.
Lady Vyra shares stories from her sessions, including couple play-coaching, women discovering their dominant side, and an extended chastity adventure through Berlin involving rules, check-ins, a prison room and a very official-sounding arousal ban. Somehow, between all the whips, cages and roleplay, it becomes a conversation about trust, embodiment and giving yourself permission to want what you want.
We also talk about why BDSM can feel almost meditative, how safe words and communication make deeper play possible, and why pleasure deserves a place next to massages, facials and all the other things we casually call self-care. Funny, juicy, thoughtful and surprisingly wholesome in the dirtiest possible way.
Find Lady Vyra: https://ladyvyra.com/ | Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ladyvyra_2/
I'm your host, Lisa Opel and I'm here to take you on a liberating ride through the world of sex shops, clubs, toys, play and more!
Feel free to send me your questions and wishes anytime on Instagram or under yes@pleasepinchmehard.com
More of me on Instagram (@pleasepinchmehard) and my webpage (www.pleasepinchmehard.com)
My book SEX SEX SEX - Your Workbook for Singles & Couples
My book GIVE IT TO ME! on Amazon (E-Book & Print) and Spotify as an Audiobook
My book SAVED IN NOTES... on Amazon (E-Book, Softback & Hardback)
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DEEP&DIRTY (DE): Augenkontakt ist intimer als Nacktheit. Und Oral ist meditativ.
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In dieser Folge geht es um zwei Themen, die erst mal wirken, als hätten sie nicht viel miteinander zu tun: Augenkontakt und Oral. Ich schaue mir beides erst getrennt an und merke dann ziemlich schnell: Am Ende geht es bei beiden um Nähe, Fokus und dieses kleine innere „Uff, das ist jetzt aber echt nah“.
Es geht darum, warum Augenkontakt sich manchmal intimer anfühlen kann als nackt sein. Warum angeschaut werden so viel auslösen kann. Und warum Oral für manche Menschen etwas Meditatives haben kann: beim Geben durch Fokus, beim Empfangen durch Vertrauen und Loslassen.
Eine Folge über Intimität, Kopfkino, Körpergefühl, kleine peinliche Momente, echte Aufmerksamkeit und die Frage, was passiert, wenn wir beim Sex ein bisschen weniger performen und ein bisschen mehr da sind.
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I'm your host, Lisa Opel and I'm here to take you on a liberating ride through the world of sex shops, clubs, toys, play and more!
Feel free to send me your questions and wishes anytime on Instagram or under yes@pleasepinchmehard.com
More of me on Instagram (@pleasepinchmehard) and my webpage (www.pleasepinchmehard.com)
My book SEX SEX SEX - Your Workbook for Singles & Couples
My book GIVE IT TO ME! on Amazon (E-Book & Print) and Spotify as an Audiobook
Need a one-on-one session with a Confidante? I've got you: www.mrs-opel.com


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(ENG): Are we headed towards a sexless society?
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Are we headed toward a sexless society, or is desire simply exhausted?
In this episode, I talk about dopamine, doomscrolling, dating apps, consent, body image, self-improvement culture and why intimacy can feel so complicated now. Not to shame anyone for having less sex, but to ask what desire needs in order to feel safe, playful and alive again.
Less performance. More play. Less perfection. More presence. Less self-surveillance. More tenderness.
I'm your host, Lisa Opel and I'm here to take you on a liberating ride through the world of sex shops, clubs, toys, play and more!
Feel free to send me your questions and wishes anytime on Instagram or under yes@pleasepinchmehard.com
More of me on Instagram (@pleasepinchmehard) and my webpage (www.pleasepinchmehard.com)
My book SEX SEX SEX - Your Workbook for Singles & Couples
My book GIVE IT TO ME! on Amazon (E-Book & Print) and Spotify as an Audiobook
My book SAVED IN NOTES... on Amazon (E-Book, Softback & Hardback)
Need a one-on-one session with a Confidante? I've got you: www.mrs-opel.com


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(ENG): REBECCA MINOR @bi_invisibility: Bi+ invisibility, straight-assumed relationships, identity, motherhood, and finding the words for who you are.
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What happens when you know you are queer, but the world keeps reading your life as straight?
In this episode, I talk to Rebecca Minor, therapist, gender specialist, author, and co-founder of bi+ (in)visibility. We speak about bi+ invisibility, straight-assumed relationships, identity, motherhood, coming out, bisexual men, community, and the question so many people carry quietly: Am I queer enough?
Rebecca reminds us that your actions do not determine your identity. You can be bi, queer, pan, questioning, married, monogamous, a parent, private, visible, or still figuring things out. Your identity is still yours.
About Rebecca: Rebecca Minor is a queer therapist, educator, and founder of bi+ (in)visibility, an online community for bi+, pan, and queer people navigating life in straight-assumed relationships. Drawing from both her clinical work and lived experience, Rebecca helps people untangle identity, belonging, visibility, and what it means to be known. Her work has resonated with hundreds of thousands of people who have spent years wondering whether they are "queer enough" and looking for language, community, and connection. She is also the author of Raising Trans Kids: What to Expect When You Weren’t Expecting This.
Links: Instagram: @bi_invisibility | @gender.specialist | bi+ (in)visibility: genderspecialist.com/bi-invisibility | Rebecca’s book: Raising Trans Kids: What to Expect When You Weren’t Expecting This
I'm your host, Lisa Opel and I'm here to take you on a liberating ride through the world of sex shops, clubs, toys, play and more!
Feel free to send me your questions and wishes anytime on Instagram or under yes@pleasepinchmehard.com
More of me on Instagram (@pleasepinchmehard) and my webpage (www.pleasepinchmehard.com)
My book SEX SEX SEX - Your Workbook for Singles & Couples
My book GIVE IT TO ME! on Amazon (E-Book & Print) and Spotify as an Audiobook
My book SAVED IN NOTES... on Amazon (E-Book, Softback & Hardback)
Need a one-on-one session with a Confidante? I've got you: www.mrs-opel.com


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DEEP&DIRTY (DE): LOVIS WALTNER - Sexuelle Bildung beginnt an der Supermarktkasse.
YouTube Video hier: https://youtu.be/pAGUwrb1c84
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ALLE LINKS ZU LOVIS:Website: https://www.hejlovis.com/ | Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/hej.lovis.sxpaedagogik |E-Mail: loviswaltner@hejlovis.com
ÜBER DIESE FOLGE:
Was passiert, wenn ein Kind an der Supermarktkasse fragt, wie das Baby in den Bauch gekommen ist? Oder wenn es in der Badewanne den eigenen Körper entdeckt und sagt: “Das fühlt sich schön an”?
In dieser Folge spreche ich mit Sexualpädagogin Lovis Waltner über sexuelle Bildung, die nicht aus dem einen großen, peinlichen Aufklärungsgespräch besteht. Sondern aus vielen kleinen Momenten im Alltag.
Lovis macht Mut, nicht perfekt sein zu müssen. Wir dürfen sagen: “Das ist eine gute Frage, ich muss kurz überlegen.” Oder: “Das weiß ich gerade nicht, aber ich finde es heraus.” Wichtig ist, dass Kinder merken: Mit diesen Themen darf ich kommen.
Denn wenn Kinder keine Antworten von uns bekommen, suchen sie sie woanders. Bei Freund:innen, im Internet, auf Social Media oder irgendwann in Pornos.
DEEP & DIRTY findest du überall, wo es Podcasts gibt, und hier auf YouTube.
Über Lovis Waltner | Lovis Waltner ist Sexualpädagogin, Sexualberaterin und Jugend- und Heimerzieherin. Ihr Schwerpunkt liegt in der sexuellen Bildung für Kinder, Jugendliche, Eltern und Fachkräfte. Sie arbeitet unter anderem mit Familien, Schulen, Kindergärten und der Kinder- und Jugendhilfe.
In ihrer Arbeit geht es um Körperwissen, Gefühle, Grenzen, Sprache, Selbstbestimmung, digitale Medien und die Frage, wie Erwachsene Kinder und Jugendliche sicher, altersgerecht und unaufgeregt begleiten können.
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I'm your host, Lisa Opel and I'm here to take you on a liberating ride through the world of sex shops, clubs, toys, play and more!
Feel free to send me your questions and wishes anytime on Instagram or under yes@pleasepinchmehard.com
More of me on Instagram (@pleasepinchmehard) and my webpage (www.pleasepinchmehard.com)
My book SEX SEX SEX - Your Workbook for Singles & Couples
My book GIVE IT TO ME! on Amazon (E-Book & Print) and Spotify as an Audiobook
Need a one-on-one session with a Confidante? I've got you: www.mrs-opel.com


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