The Upgrade by Lifehacker

This week Cleo Stiller, host of Fusion TV's "Sex Right Now," joins us to talk about how porn is affecting our sex lives, what happens when men get menstrual cramps, and to introduce us to a Fitbit for your penis. We also talk to sex therapist Sari Cooper about how to keep intimacy alive in long-term relationships. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit

All too frequently, people who are good at making a thing get promoted to be the supervisors of the people making the thing—without any training as to how to lead. So how do you become a good boss? Do you pick up leadership skills on the job, or is special coaching required? We find out this week. First, we'll get a sense of what makes a good boss, with the author of Lifehacker's brand-new career advice column, “Human Resource”: Rob Walker. Then, executive coach Jen Goldman-Wetzler tells us how she helps bosses be the best they can be.  And finally, the creator of Ruby on Rails and co-founder of Basecamp, David Heinemeier Hansson, tell us how to make a workplace that’s not crazy in five steps. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit

We spend a lot of time worrying about death: our own, and the deaths of those we love. This week we look at our deeply held fears and assumptions about dying and see if we can't lessen some of our anxiety about it. First, we talk with cardiologists Chris Kelly and Marc Eisenberg. Their patients come to them with millions of different ailments, but the one question that patients ask them most often, regardless of symptoms, is "Am I dying?!" Then Zen monk Koshin Paley Ellison talks with us about how we think about death and dying, how we can give care without becoming emotionally and spiritually depleted, and how in talking with people who are dying, we learn a lot about how to live. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit

Financial journalist Felix Salmon joins us this week to talk about making money while doing good in the world, "Badass" author Jen Sincero tells us how she went from no money to a lot of money by changing her mindset, and we all end up rich. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit

Mel Robbins is a motivational speaker and the author of "The 5 Second Rule." She’s also the host of the new Audible series “Kick Ass with Mel Robbins.” In this episode, we talk about motivation, taming the negative voices in our head, and how we can kick our own asses to get from good to great. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit