Shot At Love

• I Surrender; Finding a Path Forward to Love: Chapter 11

  Tune into Chapter 11, I Surrender; Finding a Path Forward to Love, a favorite for those having a hard time. Heartbreak can feel like quicksand, but there’s a way to stop sinking. I share how surrender—real acceptance, not resignation—becomes a daily practice that steadies the mind, restores self-respect, and turns pain into a teacher. From the serenity prayer to the mantra sarvesham svastir bhavatu, I unpack simple rituals that anchor your nervous system when grief and rumination try to take over. I walk through the five stages of grief in the context of narcissistic dynamics, making space for the messy parts—denial that kept you safe, anger that needs clean outlets, bargaining that blurs reality, depression that asks for gentle structure, and acceptance that finally loosens the knot. With insights from Kute Blackson’s The Magic of Surrender, I flip the script: a relationship can end and still be a success if it helped you grow into a truer version of yourself. That reframe moves you from searching with scarcity to meeting love with grounded presence. Stories power change, so we spotlight courage in action. Tina Turner’s night of escape and reinvention shows how one decisive step can reset a life. Dolly Parton’s publishing stand models boundaries, patience, and long-view faith. These examples prove that small steps compound—blocking a number, archiving old photos, taking a quiet walk instead of doom-scrolling—until momentum returns. We close with practical guidance to drop the bag of bricks, set clear boundaries, and trust that peace is possible when you stop pushing and start showing up as yourself. If this conversation helped you breathe a little easier, follow the show, share it with a friend who needs strength today, and leave a quick review so others can find it. Your story might be the spark someone else is waiting for. Start with this Description Instagram: @kerry_brett | @shotatlovepodcastFacebook: Shot@Love PodcastLinkedIn: Kerry Brett️Join the mailing list: www.shotatlovethebook.com Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

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• "No One is Coming" and "No Days Off": Chapter 10

  Tune into "No One is Coming" and "No Days Off": Chapter 10. Sometimes the hardest truth can be the start of real momentum: no one is coming, and there are no days off. We open with mantras that sharpen courage and then walk straight into the messy middle—an on-again, off-again relationship, a high-stakes photography assignment with Bill Belichick on Nantucket, and a gutting discovery left open in an email. What follows isn’t a collapse; it’s a choice. With a deadline looming and another shoot with Julian Edelman on deck, we turn heartbreak into horsepower, swap rumination for execution, and let anger refine our focus instead of wrecking it. You’ll hear how patterns take root, why sunk-cost thinking keeps the wrong door open, and how to close it with conviction. We unpack “no days off” as more than a sports slogan—it’s a personal operating system for resilience, discipline, and self-respect. Edelman’s legendary catch becomes a playbook for staying locked in when you’re inches from the ground: eyes on the ball, hands steady, outcome earned. The story moves from betrayal to boundary-setting, from tolerating less to choosing more, and from being benched by pain to calling your own plays. There’s a twist of joy at the end—a right swipe and a match with former Patriots lineman Max Lane—arriving not as a rescue, but as the natural result of raising your standards. Along the way, we share the practical habits that keep you in motion: clear self-talk, tight routines, creative flow under pressure, and the courage to shut a door that keeps hurting you. If you’re navigating dating, rebuilding after a breakup, or pushing for excellence in your craft, this chapter offers tools and a real story to anchor them. If this resonates, tap follow, share it with a friend who needs the reminder, and leave a review with your favorite takeaway. Your support helps more people find the mindset and momentum to win the inches between head and heart. For more details, go to www.shotatlovebook.com Start with this Description Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

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• Love's Lunacy – A Journey of Crazy and Stupid Devotion: Chapter 9

  Tune into Chapter 9 Love's Lunacy: A Journey of Crazy and Stupid Devotion from my book Shot At Love, A Celebrity Photographer's Unfiltered Lens on Dating and Finding Love. What if the moment that saves you starts with a mantra and a punchline? We open on a small-town shoot with Steve Carell and land in the center of a bruising love story—one built on mixed signals, breadcrumbing, and the slow erosion of self. Along the way, a pinwheel, a dance number, and a stubborn fight to keep a scene in a film become unlikely teachers about boundaries, authorship, and choosing what matters when the pressure is on. From there, the curtain lifts on commitment-phobia and the anxious–avoidant dance: the push–pull of intimacy that keeps one partner chasing and the other fleeing. We dig into Mr. Unavailable’s patterns, attachment science, and why intermittent reinforcement is so addictive. The stakes spike when family drama explodes into gaslighting and an uninvited wedding, forcing a reckoning with reality, proof, and the heavy cost of keeping the peace. In the wreckage, a manifesto takes shape—part evidence, part prayer—marking the pivot from explaining to exiting. What follows is a clear, compassionate path out: consequences over speeches, boundaries that hold, and the No Contact Rule as a lifeline back to self-trust. We talk practical recovery—retraining your nervous system, rebuilding routines, and finding meaning in art, music, and community. If you’ve ever felt “crazy” for wanting love to feel safe, this story offers language, tools, and a way through. Subscribe, share with a friend who needs it, and leave a review to tell us the one boundary you won’t bend again. We trace a wild arc from a Steve Carell photoshoot and an Aquarius mantra to the hard end of a toxic relationship, unpacking commitment-phobia, gaslighting, and the cost of staying. Boundaries, no-contact, and self-respect turn chaos into clarity. Join the mailing list and find out more about Shot At Love Live events at www.shotatlovebook.com. Follow, rate, and subscribe. Please follow me on social media – Instagram, @Kerry_Brett, and on Facebook under Kerry Brett. Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

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• Homeless on a Harley: Chapter 8

  Tune into Homeless on a Harley, Chapter 8, one of my favorite chapters from Shot At Love, A Celebrity Photographer's Unfiltered Lens on Dating and Finding Love. Dating shouldn’t feel like a jailbreak, but sometimes the heart clings to a locked door. We open with a grounding mantra to the divine feminine and roll straight into Randy “Moose” Gomez’s field notes—thirty years as a PI and bail bondsman distilled into one essential truth: listen like a detective and love like a leader. From pandemic-era scams to everyday mixed signals, we unpack how small details reveal big realities, and why your questions are not drama—they’re data. The story winds through a raw Thanksgiving heartbreak, a copper-topped bar in South Boston, and a high school spark named Coyote Cameron who skates in hot and exits even hotter. It’s romantic, funny, and a little brutal: the secret workplace, the “lost phone,” the slow fade that says more than words. Along the way, we map practical checkpoints for modern dating—consistency over charm, transparency over mystery, alignment over adrenaline. You’ll hear how nostalgia can blur judgment, how self-talk can free or trap you, and how to spot the moment when grace becomes self-abandonment. We don’t shame the chemistry; we translate it. When behavior and words don’t match, confusion wins. When someone guards context, believe them. And when your standards rise, your peace follows. If you’ve stayed too long, waited on a text that never came, or ignored a red flag because the weekend felt perfect, this conversation will hand you a steadier compass—rooted in self-respect, active listening, and a PI’s calm eye for patterns. Press play, take what helps, and set your own checkpoints. If this episode gave you clarity or courage, subscribe, share it with a friend who needs the nudge, and leave a quick review so more people can raise their standards with us. We explore how a cowboy PI’s listening skills and a hard left turn in South Boston taught us to trust patterns over promises and choose self-respect over heat. The heart goes fast, but the truth arrives on time when you ask better questions and believe what you hear. When people tell you who they are believe them. Please subscribe, rate, and review. Keep up to date with Shot At Love Live events and join the mailing list at www.shotatlovebook.com Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

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• Not All Those Who Wander Are Lost: Chapter 7

  Not All Those Who Wander Are Lost, Chapter 7 of Shot At Love, A Celebrity Photographer's Unfiltered Lens on Dating and Finding Love. A breakup can make even bright rooms feel dim, and mine turned everything gray—right down to the paint on my walls. I gave 50 shades of gray new meaning. I tried to muscle through with grit and lonely heart playlists, but it took an unexpected intervention from Red Sox legend Tim Wakefield to cut through the noise. Tim’s straight talk about self-respect, resilience, and moving on landed like a perfectly thrown knuckleball: unpredictable, undeniable, and exactly what I needed to hear. The over-under was that this was a very loud wake-up call from Wake, and I had to find self-love at bat. From there, the path bent toward a different kind of ballgame—one of mantras, lineage, and sacred sound. I share how a puja led by a guru's wife reopened the door to Sanskrit practice, and how a medium delivered a message I couldn’t ignore: aham prema doesn’t just invite romantic love; it insists on self-love first. That reminder connected me back to my teacher, Namadeva, and to a daily practice of the —Gayatri before the mic, breath before reaction, compassion before compromise—that steadied the ground beneath my feet. Daily practice of chanting and the discipline of rebuilding standards after heartbreak. Along the way, we honor two legacies that shaped this story—Tim Wakefield’s generosity and caring, and Namadeva’s mastery of mantras—whose dates now echo in my calendar like a quiet blessing. If you’ve ever felt stuck between surrender and survival, this chapter offers tools and testimony: boundaries that hold, mantras that heal, and a practical path to liking yourself enough to choose better. Listen, reflect, and if it resonates, share it with someone who could use a sign. Subscribe, leave a review, and tell me: what’s the one line you needed to hear today? If you want to find out more about the Shot At Love movement and community, join the mailing list to learn about upcoming Shot At Love Live events at www.shotatlovebook.com Send us a text Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

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