The Queer Family Podcast – LGBTQ Families & Queer Parenting Stories

When a clip from one of our earlier Tea Time episodes sparked a heated debate online, we knew we had to dedicate an entire episode to it.
This week, we're unpacking the history of "lesbian bed death"—where the term came from, why many researchers now reject it, and whether it's time for queer women to reclaim it altogether. We talk about intimacy, consent, long-term relationships, aging, emotional connection, and why comparing queer relationships to heteronormative standards misses the point entirely.
Whether you're in a decades-long partnership or just moved in together, this is one of our most thoughtful (and funniest) Tea Time conversations yet.
Why You'll Love This Episode
This isn't just a conversation about sex—it's a conversation about how queer relationships are often misunderstood. Jaimie and Dianni challenge decades of assumptions, share personal experiences from opposite ends of long-term relationships, and ultimately ask a bigger question: What if we've been measuring intimacy all wrong?
🏳️‍🌈 Key Takeaways
The surprising (and problematic) origins of the term "lesbian bed death."
Why measuring queer relationships through a heteronormative lens misses the point.
How consent, changing bodies, and life stages naturally affect intimacy.
Why emotional intimacy often looks different in queer relationships.
Jaimie's case for reclaiming "lesbian bed death" as something empowering instead of shameful.
A thoughtful discussion about comparing relationships—and why frequency isn't the same as satisfaction.

🏳️‍🌈 About the guest(s)
Dianni is Jaimie’s friend, fellow queer human, and co-host of Tea Time with Jaimie & Dianni, a short-form bonus series featuring casual, unfiltered conversations about their very different queer little lives. Together, they spill the tea on what’s happening behind the scenes, compare notes across generations and life stages, and talk about the things that don’t always make it into a regular episode of The Queer Family Podcast.
Funny, curious, and always ready to ask the follow-up question, Dianni helps turn Tea Time into the kind of conversation that feels like eavesdropping on two friends catching up.
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🏳️‍🌈 Edited by: Dianni Hall 🏳️‍🌈 Theme Song by: Tiffany Topol 🏳️‍🌈 Logo by: Daneen Stevenato 
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Anne has officially finished her final cancer treatment.
In this special Tea Time episode, Jaimie sits down with her pal Dianni for an honest conversation about what comes next for her family after a year and a half of chemotherapy, surgeries, radiation, targeted treatment, and caregiving.
Jaimie talks about how cancer changed their family, what it was like watching their children navigate the journey, rebuilding intimacy after illness, and the unexpected routines that helped her stay grounded through it all.
It's a quieter, more vulnerable conversation than usual—one about hope, healing, and finding your way forward after surviving something life-changing
🏳️‍🌈 Key Takeaways
Anne reaches the end of her cancer treatment journey.
What healing looks like after months of surviving.
How caregiving changes a marriage.
Supporting children through a parent's illness.
Finding routines that provide comfort during difficult seasons.
Holding onto tenderness after trauma.

🏳️‍🌈 About the guest(s)
Dianni is Jaimie’s friend, fellow queer human, and co-host of Tea Time with Jaimie & Dianni, a short-form bonus series featuring casual, unfiltered conversations about their very different queer little lives. Together, they spill the tea on what’s happening behind the scenes, compare notes across generations and life stages, and talk about the things that don’t always make it into a regular episode of The Queer Family Podcast.
Funny, curious, and always ready to ask the follow-up question, Dianni helps turn Tea Time into the kind of conversation that feels like eavesdropping on two friends catching up.

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🏳️‍🌈 Theme Song by: Tiffany Topol 🏳️‍🌈 Logo by: Daneen Stevenato 

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What really happens behind the scenes of The Queer Family Podcast? 👀
In this special preview of Tea Time with Jaimie & Dianni, Jaimie is spilling the tea on podcast guest pet peeves, the secret ways she can tell whether someone pitching themselves for the show has actually listened, and what happens when people come on with an agenda of their own.
Yes, there are secret tests. Yes, Jaimie knows when you’ve only watched a few social clips. And yes… she has feelings. 😬
This is just a preview. Listen to the full episode—and binge more short, fun, unfiltered Tea Time with Jaimie & Dianni episodes—on the exclusive subscriber feed or Patreon.

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Tea Time with Jaimie & Dianni is a subscriber-only bonus series where Jaimie and her friend Dianni sit down for short, fun, unfiltered conversations about their very different queer little lives. It’s casual, behind-the-scenes, and a little messy—in the best way.
This week, the tea is hot. ☕️
Jaimie and Dianni are pulling back the curtain on what really happens behind the scenes of The Queer Family Podcast—from the secret ways Jaimie can tell whether a potential guest has actually listened to the show to people who come on just to push their wares, and one particularly frustrating mansplaining interview.
Jaimie opens up about what it takes to produce the show, why she feels so protective of her audience, and what happens when a guest confidently pushes back with information she knows isn’t right.
Plus: the very specific question hiding in Jaimie’s guest questionnaire that tells her almost everything she needs to know. 👀
Short, messy, unfiltered, and a little feisty. Just how Tea Time should be.
🏳️‍🌈 Key Takeaways
Jaimie has a few sneaky ways of figuring out whether potential guests have actually listened to The Queer Family Podcast.
A great pitch doesn’t always mean someone understands the show—or the assignment.
Behind every episode is a lot of time, care, research, and money, which makes it especially frustrating when guests show up unprepared.
Jaimie shares what happens when a guest confidently pushes back with information she knows isn’t right.
Protecting the audience sometimes means challenging misinformation, even when it creates an uncomfortable moment.
The heart of The Queer Family Podcast will always be everyday LGBTQIA+ families sharing stories that deserve to be heard.

🏳️‍🌈 About the guest(s)
Dianni is Jaimie’s friend, fellow queer human, and co-host of Tea Time with Jaimie & Dianni, a short-form bonus series featuring casual, unfiltered conversations about their very different queer little lives. Together, they spill the tea on what’s happening behind the scenes, compare notes across generations and life stages, and talk about the things that don’t always make it into a regular episode of The Queer Family Podcast.
Funny, curious, and always ready to ask the follow-up question, Dianni helps turn Tea Time into the kind of conversation that feels like eavesdropping on two friends catching up.

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Wilma and Marilyn—better known as The Rainbow Aunties—have loved each other for more than four decades. But for much of that time, they couldn't live openly as a couple.
In this moving conversation, they share how they fell in love in college while Marilyn was in a relationship with a man, why they spent years hiding their relationship, and how military policies, religion, fear, and the threat of losing their children shaped every decision they made.
Despite every obstacle, they quietly built a family together, raised two daughters, became grandparents, and eventually found the courage to tell the world the truth about their love.
This episode is a powerful reminder that Pride exists because generations before us fought simply to love openly. Wilma and Marilyn's story is one of resilience, sacrifice, family, and a love that never let go.
🏳️‍🌈 Key Takeaways
Love can survive extraordinary circumstances when rooted in commitment.
LGBTQ elders paved the way for the freedoms many queer families experience today.
Family building doesn't always follow traditional paths.
Living authentically sometimes takes decades—and that's okay.
Protecting children often meant remaining closeted for older generations.
Representation matters at every age.
Pride is both a celebration and a remembrance of those who couldn't safely live out loud.

🏳️‍🌈 About the guest(s) Wilma and Marilyn, known online as @therainbowaunties_, are authors, content creators, grandparents, and longtime advocates for LGBTQ visibility. Together for more than forty years, they share stories about love, aging, family, and queer history with warmth, humor, and honesty. Through their social media and their memoir, From Pain to Love: Our Journey Outside the Rainbow, they remind people of every generation that it's never too late to live authentically.
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🗳️ VOTE. 🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍⚧️ ADVOCATE. 🍼 BUILD QUEER FAMILIES.
The information shared in this episode is for educational purposes only and not a substitute for professional advice. Always consult a trusted professional for your specific situation!

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