I Do, We Do | Discussing Careers, Collabs, Communication, and Challenges

Mental-health day or self-care? We millennials love to develop our own phrases for everything. Either way you call it, it is something we practice regularly. In this episode, we discuss what self care is and what it isn't, what we do separately to practice self-care,  and what we do together to practice what we call "together care." Music “Sunny” by Bensound.com. What We Talked About in this Episode: What self care is/isn’t It is not just doing something for yourself It's an activity that puts you in a better mind place, zen out, Self-care solo What Ashley does Blowouts Journaling What Billy does Reading Self care together Travel/trips Spas Walks/workouts Conversations, listening to each other Listening to Audible together Couples who self care together stay together Did we just coin Together-Care?

We just celebrated International Women's Day, so we're approaching everyone's favorite topic… gender norms. Before we met, there’s so many norms we fought. But once we got married, we took this to another level. We love identifying as a modern couple, but we are not perfect. In this episode, we share our opinions on gender norms, identify the norms we fight, and the ones we fall right in to. Music “Sunny” by Bensound.com. What We Talked About in this Episode Our perspective on Gender Norms Awareness is key How we fight some gender norms Ashley choose to hyphen her last name after marriage, and now Billy wishes he would have done the same We hold each other's careers with equal importance, Ashley even held the title if “breadwinner” for several years Billy likes “girly” things - Musicals, Chick flicks, spas/pampering,   Ashley likes sports! How we play into other norms Through our enneagram episode, we learned our personalities play right into the stereotypical roles of “mom & dad” Chores - She does dishes, he takes out the trash

They are the ultimate #relationshipgoals (even if they hate the title)... Michelle and Barack Obama. We are feeling very inspired after seeing Michelle on her Becoming book tour. In this episode, we provide a recap on her book tour, why we find this couple so inspiring, and how we are BECOMING better together using them as an example. Music “Sunny” by Bensound.com. What We Talked About in this Episode: There are a lot of couples we look up to - Our parents first and foremost. We have interviewed them before. They have 82 years of marriage between them! Famous Duos - We have talked about three famous power couples before - Chip and Joanna Gaines, Julie and Zach Ertz and Beyonce and Jay Z. #RelationshipGoals - Michelle and Barack Obama Becoming Book Tour comes to Austin We recap the event Perception of Austin from Rachel Ray and Michelle Michelle talked about the pressure of #RelationshipGoals and how they are no different from any other couple. They have worked hard on their relationship to get to where they are. It hasn’t always been pretty and it has never been easy Remembering it comes it waves Couple to admire bc they are both hard workers, but know how to let loose Traditional roles since presidential run How we are Becoming better together Becoming requires overcoming

It is official, we have a newborn business! When we started this podcast, we had no plans that this collab would turn into a business centered on collaboration. In this episode, we discuss what inspired us to start a business together, give a short update on where we are in our business, and some of challenges with starting a business with your spouse. Music “Sunny” by Bensound.com. What We Talked About in this Episode Why we decided to start a business together when we had already done so much work together Our business is a consulting agency centered around collaboration Bashley Collaborative is officially an LLC We have a handful of projects we are working on ...and we got our first rejection! The fun parts about starting a business with your spouse The challenges when starting a business with your spouse

We’re revisiting the Enneagram! The ever popular Enneagram is back on our minds but we’re focusing on what it's like to work with a Type 8 (Billy) and a Type 2 (Ashley). We talk through a few characteristics typical of a Type 8 (The Challenger) & Type 2 (The Helper), how they relate to each of us, and how we work around these traits and embrace them to be a powerhouse team of two. Music “Sunny” by Bensound.com. What We Talked About in this Episode: A recap on our enneagram types Billy is a Type 8: The Challenger Ashley is a Type 2: The Helper These types are more similar than they seem both desire impact & influence but have different ways about achieving it Type 8 is direct and results oriented Type 2 is people-oriented and altruistic Type 2 is nicknamed The Helper and it couldn’t describe Ashley more perfectly. She has built her career on helping others and takes this on in her personal life too. Type 8 loves to challenges but loves to give other the opportunity to be challenged and convinces others to take on challenges Ashley often tells Billy when she convincible When we started this podcast, Billy always asked “What’s the end result?” to which Ashley responded “Just to have fun.” Later, he convinced her to start business which they officially started in February 2019. Type 2 can be seen as a fairy-godmother Unknowingly, Ashley often jokes about being a fairy godmother to the many scholarship recipients of the non-profit she runs How Ashley needs a wand Type 8s love control and hate being controlled, which completely describes Billy Even physically, Billy hates certain positions when cuddling because he doesn’t have control of his body Ashley had difficulty working with this when before she was always the one who was forced to make plans She doesn’t desire control, but likes to fill needs and help others Type 2s are empathetic and are in tune to others, Type 8s like results and often loses emotional contact Billy doesn’t walk into situations wanting to make friends, but recognizes that others might & that’s where Ashley’s skillset shines Ashley often serves as a consultant for Billy when communicating emotions with others Type 2s help others so much, it often is to the detriment of their own health When Ashley gets tired or stressed, her emotions come out. Billy then asks himself, “What can I do for Ashley to help her, so she’s not always being the helper?”